Think it Through
Yes, it’s not right that you were laid off in a cold, inhuman way.
Yes, you have been searching for work for a long time, and it is really hard
Yes, it stinks that you weren’t given a severance of any kind
Yes, it was a tough choice when you learned the interview process was going to be six (!) 45-minute technical interviews, which you saw as a red flag and walked away
Yes, being sneaped (Shakespearean word I prefer to ghosted) is demeaning and rude.
Before you take your beef to the streets and publicly share the unfairness, think it through.
Resist the temptation to rant about the wrongdoing you experienced, to avoid hurting your personal brand.
What is to gain from posting a rant about how you were poorly treated?
What is to lose from doing it?
Is this ranting post or posts going to positively elevate your personal brand?
Does this rant solidify the attachment you have to being wronged, or loosen it?
Think it through.
Heat experiences like job loss, living without any income, and interviewing, especially in an employer’s market, can really be stressful. There is no doubt that things could be improved to be more human, and apply some good leadership to boot. Believe it or not, that’s not where your focus should be.
It’s hard to look for growth when you are in the heat of the moment, but that’s the way through this situation. Our brains want to stay attached to the wrongdoing, to the wonky or broken system(s). You might be thinking, “Yeah, but where to start? I begin to move past and then my brain dives right back into it, and I’m wallowing again!”
The best way to get started on helping our brain let go of this stuff is an immediate, small step to stop. Stop texting your friends and family, stop posting, ranting. Get away from your devices. Take a walk, a run, get on your Harley, whatever it takes to be alone, without the noise of the world.
Hint: it would be great to make a habit out of this over time. Use this reflection time to unpack how you’re feeling, and why. You may surprise yourself how quickly you can get to the root of it all.
As you begin to release the past, you can be more open to what is next. If you’re truly reflecting, your next step won’t be to rant to others or on media.
Champions learn, adjust, and then they always get back up. It is no less difficult for them. Yes they believe that how you do anything is how you do everything.
Think it through.